Peace be to all... been quiet a while since i write down my thoughts, well the above question was asked by a friend and so i need to write down my thoughts in order for me to "see" what the questions is in the 1st place. As usual, i have to ask a few questions before i can actually answer the question.
Q1 - Define homemaker?
http://simple.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homemaker - definition
A homemaker is a person whose main job is to take care of their own family home and children. Traditionally, the job of homemaker is done by women and the job of provider is done by men, but both men and women can be providers and homemakers.
To me that means my hubby is also a homemaker - for goodness sake! Every mom and dad out there is a homemaker! honestly, i hate all this titles and what-not this name calling thingy - ok i accept as a general definition - i m a homemaker - blah!
next Q2 - why is the question given to me?
Answer: because i m no longer working full-time and spent more time at home than outside home ... heee... just does'nt sounds right :)
Q3 - What is personal time and space? well i am never good with words and how to explain things so as usual i googled for "personal time and space" and came across this:
Lebanese American poet Kahlil Gibran wrote in his book "The Prophet", on marriage:
The strings of a lute are alone though
they quiver with the same music
Give your hearts,
but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life
can contain your hearts.
And stand together,
yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple
stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress
grow not in each other's shadow.
I am never good at interpreting poem either, but i do know everyone need personal space and time regardless whether u are a homemaker or not.
Q4. How do you find it? To me? I can just shutdown everything else around me and be by myself anytime i want to - even in crowded places - Yes! What is personal time to me:
when i m read the Quran, feeling Allah is talking directly to me
when i am able to browse tru the internet
When i am engrossed reading a book,
when i m able to expand my creative juices in any of my hobbies
When i am able to ride a bike without having to wait
when i m taking long walks to keep myself fit
when i m out trekking and enjoying His blessings that surrounds me
when i m watching tv and be able to immerse and understand the story
when i m writing and talking to myself while doing so ;)
Q5. What is MY personal space? I am happy when i m given the space to do the above regardless whether it is just a seat or a corner while riding the MRT or the whole park when i m doing my walk.
Each individual define personal time and space differently, to me, i don't have to be away from my family nor friends to attain it. As someone who is married with children, i automatically will arrange my time and space with my family to consider with. When i was working - my working table is my personal space where i m given the liberty to arrange and keep it tidy as i wish :) lunch time or even when i m working on my own - i will consider it as personal time. At home when i am resting and sleeping that is my personal time. Or when i go for facial and spa treatment too.
